5 Friends Every Woman Should Have
Don’t you agree, picking friends are so hard? If you are a people pleaser like me, it is ten times harder. I have had to work on being ok with the fact that I have fewer friends in my life. But the friendships that I have are deeper and friendships that I can count on. My mom shared two verses with me many years ago when I was struggling with trying to keep up with all the friendships I had and feeling guilty that I could not invest in each one of them.
There are “friends” who destroy each other, but a real friend sticks closer than a brother. Proverbs 18:24
The godly give good advice to their friends; the wicked lead them astray. Proverbs 12:26
These two verses are great reminders that we need to choose our friends wisely and not surround yourself with shallow friendships. We need to invest in friendships that will be with us through thick and thin and be bold enough to give us good advice when we need it.
Here are some suggestions for types friendships that every woman needs. Maybe you already have some of these friendships, and perhaps you don’t but it is always good to evaluate your friendships and make sure you are honoring Christ with them as well as protecting yourself. Scriptures warn us, and we need to keep ourselves on guard.
When evaluating my friendships, I realized I don’t have 5 personal friendships that fit in each one of this suggested friendship models. I have a couple of friends that fit into different categories. I think that is fine. A friend that is fun, but can put me in my place when I am straying away from what I am called to. What do you think? Be sure to let me know before you go.
5 Friendships every woman needs
The Faithful Friend
Oh my, I don’t know about you, but I am so thankful for this type of friend. I have one, a faithful friend. I have a friend that has cried with me, for me and been with me every step in some hard situations. She is my loyal friend that I know is going to be there. This friend is also the friend that you can trust fully. She will never talk about you behind your back. Pass secrets on to someone else. This faithful friend is always giving and never counting them to see if it is even. My faithful friend sent me the above quote in the picture one time on a card. I keep it hung on my frig to remind me of what a Faithful friend is.
The Firm Friend
This friend has the gift of discernment. A friend that can see a situation and be able to tell you if something is best for you or not. This friend will say to you with grace in her words, that something is not right for you or she sees you going in a direction in your life that is not best. A Firm friend tells you what you need to hear instead of just saying to you what you want to hear. She cares enough for you to love you through it and give you a measure of grace.
The Challenging Friend
This isn’t the friend that is hard to get along with or the friend that has some mental challenges. This is the friend that challenges you to move forward in life. A friend that pushes you to keep progressing emotionally, physically and most of all spiritually. This friend is always encouraging you to move forward and not be stuck in the same place a year down the road.
The Faith Walking Friend
I have the precious friend that fits this category perfectly. If I want to hear how God is working through me or my family or hers, I just give her a call, and before I get off the phone, I am so encouraged by the way she recognizes how God is working in our lives as well as hers.
Let me tell you this precious story that has impacted my son more than I could ever imagine.
My son was working for this friend while on a college break. The power washer was giving him fits to start. He was busy trying to get it to start, and my friend came out and said, let’s just pray about this. She then prayed for God to answer their prayers to start the power washer or give them a sign that it was time to get a new one. Amen. They finished the prayer, and she instructed our son to crank the power washer. It didn’t crank. My friend looked at my son and said, well God has answered, let’s get another one. She was not stressed about the added expense of the purchase or stressed that the job was being delayed. She fully trusted God’s answer in this situation. What a lesson to learn.
We all need to have a friend who doesn’t worry, trust the Lord and helps others see how God is working in their lives.
The Fun Friend
Ok, I saved this one for last. When we want to go out and have a good time shopping or having game night, who do you think of? This is a friend that makes you laugh. A friend that looks at life as an adventure and it is more about the experience and creating a memory. This all at the expense of getting that load of laundry folded or the grocery run done. This is a friend that encourages you to balance your life and keep it fun and adventurous instead of all serious and work.
Maybe this fun friend is one that you can spend the day with and realize you are refreshed, motivated and ready to go. She has given you a day of escape and a day of memories.
Everyone needs friends, maybe just not too many close ones.
At the top of the post, I shared two scriptures with you. These are not just words of encouragement or words of suggestions. These are words that scripture gives us as a promise. As you are evaluating your friendships and praying for God to fill the areas that you don’t have friends, pray these scriptures as well.
If you would like to have the scriptures and the quote in a printable, you can click on the links below to print out your printables.
Proverbs 18:24 Printable